Begin Planning Your Retirement Party Now

The retirement party is in full swing. Associates from throughout the organization have gathered to celebrate and extend best wishes to Bob, a great leader who is retiring. The room is packed.

One by one people go to the front of the room, grab the microphone, and begin talking about the impact that Bob made on them. Some of the stories they tell are funny, some are serious, but every one of them is personal. One person talks about how Bob provided compassion and encouragement during a tough time. Another says that she is thankful that Bob demanded her best and would not accept mediocrity. Someone else states that Bob listened to him and changed his stance on an issue. Another person remembers the time Bob sent a personal congratulation note to her son for his graduation. Someone else talks about a time that Bob made a serious mistake but owned up to it, learned from it, and became a better leader because of the experience.

Other team members begin their speeches with: I remember . . . ; You took the time to . . . ; You helped me . . . ; Ill never forget . . . ; You cared enough to . . . ; and so on.

No one spoke about successful or failed strategies. No one mentioned a successful or failed marketing program. There were no toasts to celebrate winning an account. The evening was filled with personal stories of how Bob treated each person individually.

Meanwhile, in the same building, another retirement party is going on. The party is a not a retirement celebration. It is a celebration that a leader has retired. In fact, the leader who is retiring was not even invited to the party. He did the same job and worked just as hard as Bob. But he chose to do it differently. He was a jerk.

Which retirement party do you want?

Bob understood that leadership was not about him. His primary interest was not in the accumulation of power—it was in developing his people to become their very best. The other retiree was more interested in the accumulation of power and wealth than helping those around him become their best. Typically, jerks are greedy and interested in only themselves. They act and react without thinking. Jerks enjoy taking the easy road and are quick to blame others.

That is not you. You are a great person with honorable intentions, but sometimes you may come across differently than what you really are. Unfortunately, everyone occasionally and unintentionally comes across like a jerk. Even Bob appeared to be a jerk at times. The difference in the two retirees was how often they appeared to be jerks and how quickly they recovered when their jerk moment appeared. Bob’s jerk moments were rare, temporary, and he recovered from them quickly. His team knew that regardless of the temporary jerk moment, he had their best interest in mind. The other retiree’s team knew that his jerk moment was just another ordinary day.

You may be thinking that some jerks achieve extraordinary results. After all, you have heard that nice guys finish last. Yes, some jerks have achieved extraordinary results. You may be a marketing genius, fabulous communicator, and incredible visionary. Regardless, people in your organization will probably not stick around for long if you choose the bullying, arrogant, insulting, and uncompromising leadership route.

Excerpted from The First Two Rules of Leadership. Don’t Be Stupid. Don’t Be a Jerk by David Cottrell Wiley 2016

Give Yourself a Break!

Have you ever been hounded by someone who was a constant critic of almost everything you do? Regardless of what you do, it is wrong in their eyes. Their criticism is persistent, ruthless and harsh.

That persistent critic reminds me of a story:

Once there was a farmer who advertised his ‘frog farm’ for sale. The farm, he claimed, had a pond filled to the brim with fine bullfrogs.

When a prospective buyer appeared, the farmer asked him to return that evening so he might hear the frogs in full voice. When the buyer returned, he was favorably impressed by the symphony of enchanting melodies springing from the pond. He bought the farm on the spot.

A few weeks later, the new owner decided to drain the pond so that he could catch and market the plentiful supply of frogs. To his amazement, when the water was drained from the pond, he found that one loudmouth bullfrog had made all the noise.

That story may reflect the person who relentlessly criticizes you. Don’t allow the critical noise of one, or even a few, ‘bullfrogs’ keep you from doing what you need to do.

Maybe it’s time to gig that frog and move on. However, before you grab your multi-pronged spear and start gigging, consider exactly where the noise of that one old bullfrog is coming from. Many times, we are our own “loudmouth bullfrog” and we’re obstinate in our own self-criticism. 

Aren’t we the most critical of ourselves? If you want to close the gap between who you are and who you want to become, you must learn to forgive yourself for your own gaffes. Find peace within yourself so you can enjoy living and become the person you want to be.

Give yourself a break! That is just one tip from Quit Drifting, Lift the Fog, and Get Lucky. Order your copy today on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, CornerStoneLeadership, or through your local bookstore, to read more about what you can do to become the person you want to be.

Steve Jobs was just lucky!

I don’t think so.

Steve Jobs created his own luck and pursued it vigilantly. After only six months at Reed College, Jobs quit attending classes. After dropping out, he hung around the school and noticed that posters and labels displayed on campus were beautifully hand-calligraphed. He decided to ‘drop in’ on a calligraphy class, where he learned about typefaces, leading and kerning (the space between different letter combinations), and other tips that make great typography.  

If he had followed the path of most dropouts in those days, he would have been a barefoot wanderer meandering around the school, moping about how life wasn’t fair. Instead, he ‘dropped in’ on a class that provided him information to begin thinking like an artist. His new knowledge would ultimately change the course of his life and our lives as well.

Think about what he did. He visited where luck was and then got lucky when he learned to ‘think different’ by increasing his knowledge, taking a risk, and seizing his opportunity.

You, too, can visit where luck is. Find out how by ordering Quit Drifting, Lift the Fog, and Get Lucky today on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, CornerStoneLeadership, or through your local bookstore.

Escape Someday Isle!

‘Someday I will,’ and ‘Someday I’m going to’ are the rallying cries of the residents of Someday Isle. However, never in history has a situation improved on its own while people sat basking in the sun, doing nothing. If you are stuck on Someday Isle, you can escape!

Calvin Coolidge stated, “We cannot do everything at once, but we can do something at once!” You, too, can do something at once – beginning right now. 

Are ready to escape Someday Isle? There is no good reason to sit around contemplating what your next move should be.  It could be to read 208 pages of Quit Drifting, Lift the Fog, and Get Lucky and learn how you can close the gap between where you are and where you want to be.

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What makes a great mentor?

In addition to knowledge and experience, here are seven common traits of the mentors in Quit Drifting, Lift the Fog, and Get Lucky… How to Become the Person You Want to Be:

  1. They had each been on a unique journey of their own and were willing to share their knowledge without asking for anything in return. And they weren’t afraid to give away any of their success “secrets.”
  2. They understood the power of their choices and learned to look into the future to see the consequences of the choices they were making.
  3. They worked hard.  Winning may have seemed easy, but winning only came after hard work.
  4. They loved their work yet maintained balance in their lives. They chose to invest their careers in something that engaged their hearts as well as their minds.
  5. They had a healthy blend of humility and confidence. They were grateful and readily gave credit to those who had helped them along the way.
  6. They projected a positive image, and their appearance reflected their success.
  7. They enjoyed life because they lived with purpose and understood the difference between existing and living.

Learn how to close the gap between where you are and where you want to be. Order Quit Drifting, Lift the Fog, and Get Lucky from Amazon, Barnes and Noble, CornerStoneLeadership, or through your local bookstore.

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Wisdom from a Mentor

Here are seven samples of the mentor’s advice in Quit Drifting, Lift the Fog, and Get Lucky… How to Become the Person You Want to Be:

“The challenges you face are not there to destroy you; they are there to redirect you to the path that’s right for you.” 

“Regardless of what is going on, something can be done, and the next move is yours.” 

“Everyone is one blood test, stress test, x-ray, or serious accident away from a life-changing moment. There’s no good reason to put off becoming the person you want to be.” 

“When you don’t know the facts, the tendency is to imagine the worst—things you fear will happen—and then you make assumptions based on your imagination. Those assumptions are almost always wrong. Quit imagining and reacting to what you don’t know.” 

“You can’t just want, hope, or wish for luck to show up. You must actively throw yourself in luck’s path.” 

“’Someday I will, or someday I’m going to’ are the cries of the residents of Someday Isle. Never in history has a situation improved on its own while people sat basking in the sun, doing nothing on Someday Isle.” 

“Don’t be so busy making a living that you forget how to live.” 

Those are just a few of the lessons you will learn from in Quit Drifting, Lift the Fog, and Get Lucky . Learn how to close the gap of where you are and where you want to be. 

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Hang On! No, Let Go!

Should I hang on or should I let go?  That is a tough question that everyone must answer at some point in time.  Making the wrong choice could be disastrous.

For instance, if you are rappelling a mountain, you must hang on to the rope with all your strength to make progress. Letting go would be catastrophic. However, if you are waterskiing and you lose your balance, if you don’t let go of the rope, the water will beat you to death. 

How do you know when to hang on or when to let go of your personal or professional dream? Your answer should contain equal doses of faith and reason. You first must have faith you are pursuing the right thing. Then, it must pass the reasonable test.  

To accurately decide whether to hang on or let go, you need at least one trusted advisor to help you think it through.  Your advisors can make or break you. Many people ask friends for advice, but close friends typically are not great advisors. The best advisors are people with more experience than you who will tell you the truth from their perspective, even if it hurts your feelings. Without bias, they will either confirm your faith to hang on or provide a practical reason for you to let go.

Understanding whether to hang on or let go is a valuable lesson you will learn in Quit Drifting, Lift the Fog, and Get Lucky. This book provides you the opportunity to eavesdrop on a mentor’s advice about how to discern between hanging on and letting go so that you can become the person you want to be. 

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Launch Day!

“Full of big learnings.” “Incredible book!” “Precious gift.” “Fascinating perspective.” “Loaded with great ideas.” “Inspiring and engaging.” “Enlightening and gripping.” “Soak it in. Pour it into every area of your life.” 

Those are just a few comments about Quit Drifting, Lift the Fog, and Get Lucky…How to Become the Person You Want to Be.

Today is launch day, and I am very excited!  This book contains my best life and business lessons. Written as a fable, this is the story of an executive and his two mentors, allowing you to learn from those who helped mold my life. I am confident that the lessons will be as meaningful for you as they have been for me.

Order your copy today on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, CornerStoneLeadership, or through your local bookstore.  In addition, a FREE book study facilitator guide and participant guide are available to download from CornerStoneLeadership.com.  For larger groups, a professional PowerPoint presentation is available for purchase.

Cheers!

Quit Drifting!

Do you know someone frustrated by the gap between where they are and where they intended to be?  If so, my latest book: Quit Drifting, Lift the Fog, and Get Lucky … How to Become the Person You Want to Be, could be one of the most generous gifts you can give.  

Quit Drifting is an engaging story based on a lifetime of experiences and observations. Marshall Goldsmith describes it as “A wonderful fable that teaches how to achieve success and how to share your wisdom with others.”

You can preorder it today on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, CornerStoneLeadership, or through your local bookstore.  There is also a FREE book study facilitator guide and participant guide available to download from CornerStoneLeadership.com.  I hope you enjoy.