Oh, those millennials

“The children now love luxury.  They have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise.”

That quote accurately describes today’s millennials, doesn’t it? What is wrong with them… why don’t they grow up … spoiled rotten … high maintenance …selfish … are some common attacks on today’s youth. Of course, there are some millennial goof balls, but have you seen some of the ‘mature’ people on the news?  There are plenty of goofballs representing every generation, but the most popular ride is to jump on the millennial bash wagon.

Regardless of age, we are all more similar than dissimilar.  We are real people who have the same basic fears, hopes and desires even though we have different talents.  Of course, the Boomers may never completely catch up on the millennial’s technology savvy, and the millennials do not have the callous hands of experience yet.  So, there will always be some talent gaps but we share many of the same basic needs.

Why don’t we quit bashing and reach out a hand?  We could help each other.

Oh, by the way.  The quote at the beginning of this blog was from Socrates describing the youth of his day in 469 to 399 B.C.  Ummmm.

Fake News

Were those two words ever mentioned together until a year or so ago? Some fake news has probably always existed, but it seems that every news story today is considered fake until proven true. How do you know what to believe?

Discerning fake news (fiction) from truth has been one of leadership’s greatest challenge since Moses. Politics – imagine that -, power, pride, and personal agendas are notorious for blocking the truth from being told within an organization. Even a sincere, intense, passionate desire to want something else to be the truth prevents the truth from being exposed.

The first shift recommended in the new book LeaderShift is the conscious need to shift from fiction to truth.  You will probably receive about 35,000 messages today. Some are indirect messages but every one of those messages are targeted to influence your thinking and actions.  Unfortunately, many – maybe even a majority of those messages – will contain less than the full truth.

How can you tell truth from fiction inside your organization?  Are the truth and “hoped for truth” lines blurred? More importantly, do the messages you send and the words you speak contain the full truth – no matter what?

Here are a few points to ponder as you coach your team to shift to total truth:

  1. Truth is faster, eliminates rework, and results in more profit.
  2. Without truth, there is no trust. Without trust soon you will have no one to lead.
  3. Bad news seldom improves with age. The ultimate pain of a “slow reveal”  is greater than the pain of swallowing your pride and allowing others the opportunity to help you address any issue you may be facing.
  4. Are you rewarding fiction by looking for only what you want to see and hearing only what you want to hear?

Based on the book LeaderShift … Making leadership everyone’s business.

LeaderShift … Making Leadership Everyone’s Business

Today my friend and colleague Ken Carnes and I launch our latest book: LeaderShift …. Making Leadership Everyone’s Business. LeaderShift is brief – you can read it in about 75 minutes – and engaging. It is an inspirational story that allows you to eaves drop on a conversation regarding many of the challenges that you frequently face.

Our hope is that the book will inspire you shift your thinking, begin implementing some new ideas, and help you propel your team to achieve the results that you want.

Check it out at CornerStoneLeadership or Amazon. It will be worth your time and investment.

Resolutions to Habits


Do you want 2017 to be your best year? Of course.  But, what can you do differently? Begin by answering the following questions:

How do you feel about yourself? If you don’t feel good about yourself, figure out why. What is missing? Take responsibility – nobody can make you happy, it is futile to look elsewhere to find happiness. There is something that can be done and there is something that you can do to address your emptiness. Take charge.

What are you giving? Think of those people whom you love to be around. What do they do to make you feel that way? Chances are they are enthusiastic, happy, encouragers who take the time to demonstrate that they care about you. You can do the same for someone else. You can be an enthusiastic encourager. It is almost impossible to feel bad about yourself when you are helping others feel good about themselves.

Who are you hanging out with? You respond to life similar to those you spend the most time with. That could be a blessing or a curse. If you want to be negative and cynical, hang with negative and cynical people. If you want to be a positive problem solver, hang with positive problem solving people. It is pretty simple. You will be a reflection of those you chose to be around.

How do you handle conflict? Conflicts happen in every relationship – can you ask for forgiveness? Can you forgive and let it go? Forgiveness is the “oil” of relationships … don’t let a disagreement destroy your life.

Don’t brood over mistakes, carry grudges or harbor hate. Take charge of how you feel about yourself. Encourage others. Hang with positive people. Settle conflicts quickly. You can make 2017 the best year of your life!

Recommended reading Monday Morning Choices. Available at CornerStoneLeadership.com or everywhere books are sold.

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New year … new choices

41pu12ehpcl-_sx327_bo1204203200_It is almost 2017, now what?

Isn’t it fun to open a new calendar? I am old school and enjoy touching the pages of a clean calendar where all the pages are unmarked and ready to be filled up.

Most people have great intentions to do something different when a new year rolls around but looking back at the end of the year not much changed. Their intentions did not turn into improvements. Maybe it is time to quit intending and start doing.  2017 can be the year for you to achieve more than you could even imagine.

Here are three suggestions that may help you have the best year of your life:

1. Start off by learning more … it can change your life. It changed my life when I became obsessed with personal development over thirty years ago. I discovered first hand that the more I learned the more I earned.  You can make the same discovery. Read a book a month and you can change your life. Try it. And, place on your nightstand an inspirational quote book that will stimulate a positive thought before you roll in and out of bed. Starting and ending your day with a positive thought can make a difference.

2. Your choices determine your destiny. You can choose to blame, rationalize, retaliate… or not. Other people and their opinions do not determine your future. The ball is always in your court. No matter the situation, something can always be done to improve it and there is always something that you can choose to do. Better choices will create a better year.

3. Make 2017 your year of encouragement. One of the greatest gifts you can give is encouragement. There is an abundance of discouragers around – we need more encouragers! You will find that encouraging others will inspire you.

Choose to learn more, make better choices, encourage others and make 2017 the year that your New Year intentions become your actions.

Get ready to enter the best year of your life!

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Don’t Blink

Don’t Blink

A popular song by Kenny Chesney is titled Don’t Blink.   He sings, “Just like that you’re six years old and you take a nap and you wake up and your twenty-five … so don’t blink.”

I can relate to that. I look around and see my kids are the age that I think I should be. My grandchildren are the age that, in my mind, my children should be. What happened? Was I blinking all along and missed everyone growing up – including me? I was immersed in my children’s activities all of their lives. Looking back though it seems that they grew up in the blink of an eye.

During this Thanksgiving week, don’t blink for a while. Open your eyes … wide open. Don’t blink and go share with the people at work how thankful you are for your job. Don’t blink and tell every member of your family how much they mean to you. Don’t blink and admire the beauty of God’s creation. Don’t blink and give thanks that we are free to live in the greatest country in the world.

As Chesney says, “Take every breath God gives you for what it’s worth … now, don’t blink.”

Happy Thanksgiving week!

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One of the most frequently used expressions during the election season was FEAR.  Isn’t it ironic, maybe even fearful, that regardless of who would win the election in the greatest nation in the world that citizens would be full of fear?


Fear is a natural reaction to an unknown and I believe that the environment in which we choose to live creates a “known” that is not entirely true.


Most people choose a one-channel media source – conservatives tend to believe everything they hear on a conservative network and liberals tend to believe everything they hear on a liberal network.  Even more concerning is that many people’s primary source of news is from comedians and social media. Those opinions may get laughs and likes but are not legimate news outlets. People chose to listen to what they want to hear, socialize with people who believe what they believe, and worship with those who agree on the same social issues.  That is not necessarily bad, but it creates an insulated personal world where reality is not nearly as bad or as great as it is portrayed on whichever side you believe.


The antidote to fear is knowledge.  Check your sources or as Reagan said, “trust but verify.”   Some things are worthy of fear but I believe that most of our fears are based more on assumptions and off based opinions than factual information.


Together we can make America greater by dealing with reality, not the reality of fear mongers. Our nation is not going to move backwards to oppression. We are not going to lose our amendment rights. We are not going to arrest and haul off law abiding citizens. We are not going to punish our citizens who work hard.


America can become greater by creating more jobs. We can be greater at valuing lives of all colors – even the lives of unborn babies.  We can do better by living in a country of law and order. We can make our inner cities safer.  We can protect ourselves from radical terrorists.


Don’t you think we can do better?


Regardless who would have won this election, our nation would continue to move on.  We have issues to solve and wounds to heal. We will have plenty of other issues and wounds to heal after the next election and the next and the next.


In the meantime, there is no good reason for students to be skipping school, celebrities threating to move out of our country, or gangs vandalizing in protest. That does more harm than good.


I love the United States of America, even with our quirks.  Please join me in praying for our leaders and let’s all do our best to make America even greater.


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